What I actually bought
- Groceries – on budget
- Peppermint capsules (£4.95) – routine purchase to support healthy digestion
- Dry shampoo x 2 (£4.98) – full size and travel size in preparation for my vacation, not a replacement technically
- Eyebrow threading (£4.00) – my eyebrows really grew out and I had a job interview coming up so wanted to be in my best shape
- Mental health workbook (£16.11) – exempt from my no-buy rules as essential to my mental health and overall wellbeing
- Voice acting course (£135) – new season course which I’m really excited about, self-development
Lessons learned
- What I would buy again
Given how impulse purchases and spending in general is closely linked to emotions and wanting to make ourselves feel better, I thought it would be a good idea to look through the past 8 months and see whether my spending correlated with the level of enjoyment I felt from the purchase. Here is a list of my top experiences of the year so far and what made them so valuable:
- Spa day for my friend’s birthday – relaxing massage and afternoon tea
- Developing a trusting friendship with one of my colleagues and working on my social skills
- Acting classes – learning to be my authentic self, developing friendships and making connection
- Trip to Bath – architecture, brunch and a catch up with one of my closest friends
- Joining the gym – physical fitness,
- My friend’s Armenian wedding – feeling happy for the couple, dancing at the wedding, weather, atmosphere and welcoming local people, unexpected day spent in Kiev with a fellow cancelled flight passenger
- Reading books like ‘Becoming’ by Michelle Obama
The common theme here is that none of these are actual physical items I purchased (even books, I get free from the library), although they may have been expensive in cost, there were also plenty of free things that brought me just as much, if not more joy. Logistically, I had to pay to travel to destinations like the spa, Bath and Armenia, but it was the people, the nature, the memories (and the food!) that will be remembered.
2. What I wouldn’t buy again
I’ve also decided to do a count of how much money I would’ve saved if I only spent it on the things that actually brought me joy and value this year. In other words, these are the items I wouldn’t purchase if I knew then what I know now:
- IT Cosmetics CC Cream (£12.99) – terrible colour for my skin and I wasn’t happy with coverage either, fell for Youtube influencer recommendation
- Movement acting class (£60) – as much as I enjoyed the first acting class and reaped lots of benefits from it, I had my doubts about this one and I should’ve listened to my intuition
- Sweater comb (£1.89) – bought in March, still haven’t used it yet, probably will do now that the autumn is here and sweaters will be out soon but at the time justified it as a ‘side hustle’ purchase
- Origins Clear Improvement Charcoal Honey Mask (£30.00) – fell for the Youtube influencer advertising again, as much as I enjoyed using the mask and the look and feel of it, I didn’t notice any difference for my skin which is normally non-responsive to most products anyway, I have plenty of masks which I should be using up and that’s what I’m going to do for the rest of the year
- Clinique Superbalanced Makeup (£25.50) – this is part of that FeelUnique order that I placed because of the free beauty bag offer, 3 out of 5 items in that order I regretted buying and I pretty much knew this would be the case when placing the order but I was blinded by the offer and the free gifts. The shade is OK but I don’t like how the foundation sits on my skin and wouldn’t repurchase it as I can find cheaper alternatives
- This Works Deep Sleep Pillow Spray (£19.50) – knew this is unlikely to work but once again was conditioned by seeing this on the website many times before, it might work for some and feels indulgent but I agree with one of the reviews that it is an overpriced lavender spray.
- 100% pure rosehip oil (£14.95) – added this to my order when purchasing a birthday gift for my friend to get free shipping, I’ve had several facial oils at the time that I could’ve happily used as a cleanser and this wasn’t a true replacement
- Photo Meditations course by Susannah Conway (£127 with discount) – my regret at buying this is no way a reflection on the course itself which was thoughtfully designed, but instead on the fact that I didn’t spend the necessary time to actively practice the exercises to learn the material and use it in my everyday life. However, I’ve reiterated a lesson which I knew before in that online courses don’t work for me and the only thing that is value for money is a face-to-face, you-have-to-turn-up-to-learn kind of thing that keeps me accountable
- Bath Abbey bookmark (£2) – an impulse purchase which was pretty much immediately regretted. I do use this bookmark regularly (because I feel guilty at purchasing it) and it’s nice to look at but to be honest, I’m perfectly happy and content with using free paper bookmarks and random cards and tickets for the purpose and I like the feeling of repurposing something
- ActionAid period kit donation (£3) – in no way do I regret supporting this charity and making this tiny contribution towards this cause, but I will admit that I did it for all the wrong reasons – getting the free canvas tote and feeling better about myself, it was also a very impulsive thing.
- Thayer’s witch hazel toner (£13.89) – this was a replacement but unnecessary as I use toners very inconsistently and normally don’t find them making a difference for my skin and once again I fell for the illusion that this miracle product/ingredient might cure my skin
- Tagging gun & needles (£14.67) –Ebay business purchase, once used once
- Cetraben cream (£9.00) – prescribed by my nurse for cracked, dry hand skin, I’ve had the opportunity to try this beforehand and did have a strong feeling that it’s not the right product for my problem but went ahead and bought it because it was the professional advice, should’ve listened to that gut feeling instead (again!)
- Sweaty Betty leggings x1, sports bras x2 (£154) – while it is true that I needed some workout clothes as I didn’t have any and I am working out a minimum of 4 times a week, the 1st pair of leggings I bought is all I tend to use on the weekly basis and it was unnecessary to purchase the thermal running leggings which I might only use in winter, as well as 2 extra sports bra because I didn’t check whether they were comfortable enough (Medium size fits but I should’ve gone for the Large)
- Alo Yoga black leggings (£90) – whilst these leggings are absolutely gorgeous and a joy to wear, they are expensive what I really needed was just a pair of plain black high-waisted stretchy workout leggings. I kept them because I wanted them and I should’ve instead reminded myself what it is that I actually needed
- Fabletics cropped sports top (£30) – again, whilst I love this top and it looks amazing, I would’ve been so much better off with just a plain sweat-wicking sports top as this one only has a limited purpose of wearing it to yoga/pilates during the hotter months and not all year round which is what I need
- Minimalist’s podcast ($8 per month for 3 months – approx. £20) – whilst I think this podcast is amazing and I’ve enjoyed listening to the longer episodes, I was only able to catch up with a small number of them (because I had problems accessing them on my phone) and therefore it wasn’t worth the money for me personally
- Peppermint capsules (£4.95) – 2nd re-purchase was unnecessary as I’m not currently regularly using them and didn’t find them that effective the 1st time round but felt obliged to repurchase as at least it was something that was helping
Potential to save: £633.34
- The common theme here is that pretty much every single item on this list is something that my no-buy states that I shouldn’t buy (and clearly for a reason), because I have previously learned that the value for money (or rather joy for money) on these things is not worth it or is completely non-existent.
- The other theme that comes up often is that I recognise that the product/purchase is worth the money and is of good quality, however, I purchased it either for the wrong reasons or wasn’t able to get value out of it for some reason.
I really do hope that these reflections will help me make wiser purchasing decisions going forward so that I can keep my spending habits under control for the rest of the year (and beyond!) and reach my savings goal.